最近在读一本BDSM科普书《The New Bottoming Book》,看到作者Dossie Easton讲了一个关于她女儿的故事(当时六岁),让我有点惊讶:
"I found my daughter in her bath after she had obviously just finished masturbating. Beaming up at me from her heap of bubbles, she asked, “Mom, when youre in the tub, do you ever put your fingers in your vagina and daydream?” When I agreed that yes, I certainly did, she explained, “I’m daydreaming that I’ve been kidnapped by sexists(男性至上主义者).”""我发现女儿在浴缸里,显然刚刚自慰完。她从泡泡堆里抬头看着我,笑着问:'妈妈,你洗澡的时候会把手指放进阴道里然后做白日梦吗?'我说是的,我确实会。她解释道:'我刚刚幻想自己被坏人绑架了。'"
这让我想起一个问题:性意识的觉醒,到底从什么时候开始?
我不确定作者女儿是一个特例,还是并非如此?如果不是特例,国内外是否有差别?是否是由于是欧美性更开放,性教育更加普及?或者只是由于作者的工作,使得她女儿格外早熟呢?
我们常常以为这是青春期的事,但是否很多人在更早的时候就有了模糊的感觉呢——可能是对某个画面的好奇,可能是身体的某种反应,可能是说不清的幻想。